Wednesday, June 10, 2009

"Fire Can Cook Your Food or Burn Your House Down"

Meryl [Runion],

Do you recommend keeping an anger journal?


I wouldn’t keep an anger journal because, while anger is a useful tool for discovering where you need boundaries, the purpose of paying attention to your anger is to be able to move beyond it. Keeping a journal about it makes it too concrete.

Linda Larsen makes the comment, “Resentment is like drinking poison - hoping they [your enemies] will die.” Resentment is simmered anger. Ultimately anger poisons you – but it can be a useful tool if you use it to see where you’ve been unclear and where you’ve not honored your own boundaries.

This article can help you:
Constructive Anger: How to SpeakStrong when you're seeing red.

Pay particular attention to the following seven guidelines:
1. Don't resist your anger.
2. Find a way to let off steam.
3. Think determination.
4. Forget about revenge.
5. Don't base your behavior on theirs.
6. Set your goals.
7. Say what you mean, and mean what you say, without being mean when you say it.

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